God detests the prayers of a person who ignores the law. [Proverbs 28.9]
I believe the First Commandment provides insight into God's priority in what makes up "the law":
You must not have any other god but me. [Exodus 20.3]
When asked which is the most important commandment, Jesus basically summed up the first four of the Ten Commandments in the following exchange:
“Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?” Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. [Matthew 22.36-38]
As we consider how Jesus' conversation continued after the answer above, we find Him further expounding upon His first answer with the following:
A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” [Matthew 22.39-40]
Jesus' continuation of the conversation, with an answer to a question that was not asked, effectively made ALL the Ten Commandments equally important as the second "equally important" commandment was a summation of the last six of the Ten Commandments. Jesus conveyed therefore that the first four Commandments could be summed up in the words, "love God," and the last six as "love man."
So, if "love God, love man" sums up the entirety of the law, the Proverb above then clearly answers why prayers go unanswered: because God and man are not effectively loved (ignoring all the law) by the one or ones praying.
Shall we dig deeper? I think so, as I myself have my own unanswered prayers!
The "love God" part of Jesus' revelation in Matthew 22 points us to the first four Commandments. Interestingly enough however, only the actual Second Commandment uses the word "love" (as in "loving God") in its context:
You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods. I lay the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject me. But I lavish unfailing love for a thousand generations on those who love me and obey my commands. [Exodus 20.4-6]
The fact that "loving God" is part of the wording of the Second Commandment should give us ample reason to understand what the Second Commandment is all about, ...shouldn't it? The Second Commandment is a specific warning against idolatry! It must also be observed that the words "make for yourself" are included in the warning about idols even though they reflect the imagery of things created (given) by God Himself. The fact that man, in all his knowledge, is a creation of God includes him and all his accomplishments as potential idols.
Every person involved in a relationship with another person understands, at least to some degree, what jealousy is about. Let's explore this in particular as it relates to the Second Commandment. Let's say a husband specifically tells his wife that he intends to buy her dinner on a given night. He comes home that night in great anticipation of their dinner date, only to find that his wife took their twelve year old daughter to dinner instead. Is that husband going to find the fulfillment he desired in treating his wife? NO. Yes, the wife gets dinner (and has to pay for it herself) but effectively invokes jealousy in the husband by depriving him the enjoyment of her company even though is was their own daughter (creation) she had dinner with. If the wife responds to the husband, "it was your own creation I ate with and your own money that paid for the meal!" will that satisfy the husband? We all know the answer to that question!
Idolatry is NOT just about provision. Idolatry is about relationship!
Debt, insurance, medicine and technology ALL provide something God said He would provide (wealth, protection, health and knowledge). They are all indeed "children" of man's arrangement with the materials and abilities given by God, however, the relationship of faith in God alone is clouded, at best, when God is excluded. It is not enough to reason with God or man that because God ultimately created everything used to make for ourselves what He promised to provide, that that "credit" suffices to fulfill the First Commandment:
You must not have any other god but me. [Exodus 20.3]
Let's get back to the husband and wife scenario as it relates to the subject passage in Proverbs above from today's One Year Chronological Bible reading. After the dinner date fiasco, let's imagine the wife then asking the husband for a new car...
Father, help us to understand that Your law is not about rules, but about relationship. Help us also understand that our relationship with You can be summed up in one phrase: faith in You alone (understanding that faith works by love). Only You can reveal the truth of this to us. May we have eyes to see and ears to hear when we realize that our prayers are not being answered. So be it.